About Me

I began my athletic career at an early age and participated in many sports. I know first hand the feeling of entering the batters box or walking up to the free throw line with the game on the line and the fate of my team resting squarely on my shoulders. I remember standing on the edge of the pool waiting for the official to blow the whistle and start the race. Wondering if I was as good , or as fast as the swimmer two lanes over.

And I clearly remember like it was yesterday showing my horse and as we approached the closer we got the higher the jump seemed to get, a little higher and a little more daunting that top rail became with each stride. Trying to hide my nervousness and uncertainty sure that if my horse picked up my shaken confidence he might balk and refuse the jump and possibly send me airborne onto the show ring dirt.

Despite spending countless hours practicing and preparing for competition ,  my daydreams of cheering fans and fantasies of stardom were rarely realized. And it was never a question of me not doing enough to get in shape or hone my skills or work my horse to prepare him for competition. I was always driven , always determined to succeed. And over time I came to realize that if I only had more confidence , more belief in myself and my abilities , if I could somehow find a way to get rid of my anxiety and calm my nerves  and play without thoughts like:

” Don’t blow it” or  “Don’t choke,”

…then I might be able to execute when it counted, under pressure!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I couldn’t even imagine there might be a way to take control of my thoughts!

So now after raising three girls ( who have blessed me with five grandchildren ) I am acutely aware of just how quick time flies and how precious time really is I don’t want to see them or my grand kids or anyone’s children not realize their potential, or worse, develop destructive beliefs from their failing to achieve their goals. The lessons we learn from competing in sports are instrumental in shaping our lives.

 I now really appreciate and understand how important playing sports was to me as well as it was to my kids!

Over forty years ago I started a farrier business and was lucky to find a highly skilled craftsman who showed me the fine points of shoeing race horses. I have come to know very well how to deal with pressure , and I’m not just talking about building a successful business. Eventually I was able to work for some of the biggest names in racing on some of the top horses in the sport where millions of $$$ could be on the line. And with that kind of money comes a load of stress. You see these trainers cannot afford to have anything go wrong that might interfere with the  performance of their horse. I had to figure out how to deal with the responsibilities that come with the job and over time learned to even enjoy the pressure!

My life was going great, better than I ever could have dreamed of and I thought I had everything pretty well sorted out and I had all the answers when one of my children fell prey to addiction. This really rocked my world and I tried to do everything I could think of to stop it. Yet in spite of all of my best efforts , all of my well thought out ideas on how to get her off the path of self destruction  she was travelling on , nothing was working. I have never been so terrified , never felt so helpless and so totally powerless in my life.

So, lets just say a whole lot of things happened that were difficult to deal with and throughout it all, I was hell-bent on trying to change things. I could not just sit by and watch her playing on the tracks watching out for, waiting for and just knowing that the train was coming and I just had to stop it, had to do something to get her to turn things around. Absolutely driven to do something before it became too late to to save her.

And on my hands and knees eventually I found my way to a twelve step group, filled with people just like me who were unable to stop someone they loved give up a problem that might kill them. And I learned many , many things from those people. Ordinary people who had been going down that same painful road that I was on, who were a little wiser than I was and who were kind enough to take that wisdom that they had already learned from their pain and suffering and share it with me. And here I was a man who was old enough to have it all figured out and knew exactly what needed to be done to successfully navigate through life. And suddenly I found out that all that I thought that I already knew to be true was in reality just an illusion.

That all along I had simply gotten very , very lucky.

I was not in control of all that much and certainly not in control of anyone else , certainly not my kids. And so eventually, by the grace of God my daughter found her way out of that hole , found for herself a much better way to live. My behavior had nothing do with it. she’s the one that did it, because after all she was the only one who could. And I learned that everything can change in the blink of an eye and sometimes for the best.

And so I continued to go to meetings and as someone now armed with a little more experience and maybe even a little more wisdom I was able eventually to give to others some of the gifts that were so freely given to me. And I discovered the pure joy that comes from helping ease the pain of another person . I discovered how good I feel when I am fortunate enough to be able to ease their suffering. I now know the ecstasy  (and I really can’t come up with a better word to describe it)  that I feel when I am able to help someone else deal with a problem that they have struggled with. And these wonderful emotions and feelings transcend the search for money.

Certainly we all need some money in order  to survive and prosper but what I learned and perhaps it was the greatest gift of all that I received from my experiences with addiction was how great it is to be able to help someone in need. This is what has set me on this new path in life. A new calling , to help other people deal with the problems they face , to enable them to lead happier more successful , more prosperous and rewarding lives. And who better to help than young people because they have their whole life ahead of them. And whether they go through life afraid of failure or whether they go through life fearless makes all the difference!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Because so many people go through life afraid! So afraid that often they don’t even try. And I just find that so very tragic! It’s heartbreaking !

And so I decided that I really wanted to direct my energy towards helping young people learn how to achieve their goals in their sport but even more importantly in their lives.

And I discovered a system that really works and can solve the problems that so many athletes struggle with. Whether it is a lack of confidence or handle the pressure that prevents them from performing in competition like they do in practice or whether they ask themselves the question, am I good enough? This system answers these questions and solves these problems. The methods contained in it has already helped thousands of people get better by making  them aware of what is going on inside their heads and even more importantly, exactly what to do about it and how to bring their best game onto the field. And with the knowledge gained from this program and armed with the techniques and the skills you get from learning them go beyond the world of sports and can help your child lead more prosperous, more fulfilling and more successful lives. And this really pumps me up and I am excited  by the thought of helping them excel in their sport… and beyond! Lets do this!